About

On Being Invisible

About Invisible Me
I am at an awkward age – that one between 55 and 65.  It is when a woman is older than all of her kitchen appliances, older than the house she lives in, but not as old as the dirt in the yard. It is an age when women are deemed to be too old to be beautiful and energetic, and too young to be wise and full of character. It is called the “Invisible Age.”

I Write About…
I write about whatever interests me at the moment. In the past year, this has included an exploration of how people react to women when they quit dyeing their hair. This led to an investigation of  our  superficial “Beauty” oriented society and the industries that feed it.

Researching and Writing has helped me to understand what I believe. (I write about these beliefs on the Page titled I Believe.)

My Nom De Plume
I choose to write under my childhood name, Margie, which is a derivative of my longer given name – but who ever gets to use a longer name when there is a world full of short names to be had?  I also have a nickname that most friends and family know me by. In some situations, I am known by my last name, which is actually my husbands last name, not my parents last name.  My son-in-laws probably have a name for me too…

About the Red House

I have moved from house to house and country to country, but now I am home again. Home is a Red painted House in Canada.

This Red House was not the house I wanted when we moved there in 1991. We couldn’t afford any of the houses I really wanted. But, I believed  the Red House would be home for only about 1.7 years, and then we would move on, just like the other 13 times.

I was mistaken. Not about moving, but about only living in the Red House for 1.7 years. We subsequently lived overseas (England and the Middle East) for five and a half years. We did move a few more times during that time, but the Red House stayed in the Family. When we were repatriated, it was the Red House we would come home to.

The Red House is painted Brick Red. It has a red brick patio leading up to the front door. The grandchildren refer to me as the “Grandma in the Red House”.

The surrounding Aspen, Willow and Evergreen forest is home to animals big and small – white tail deer, coyotes, skunks, weasels, owls, hawks… and mosquitoes.

The Red House

Questions and Answers about My Family

Who are the people I write about in this blog?
Margie, the author, my real name, but not the name most people know me by. Pronounced with a hard G, like the ‘g’ in Gold. Blog writer, gardener, speaks computer, mother of three grown daughters.
The Car Guy, the Spousal Unit – keeper of the fleet; retired once, went back to work; retired a second time, went back to work; planning third retirement in several months.
The Cooker – Christine, eldest daughter – excellent cook; mother of two wonderful children – Lego Kid and Wild Child; and blogger. Husband is The Fisherman.
The Baker, middle daughter – go-to girl for desserts at all functions, photographer, bookkeeper, mother of two wonderful boys, Sting and Curious George. Husband is Mr. RV.
The Beader, youngest daughter – a nurse, a cat lover, and a bead maker. Husband is Beast.
Mac Dad,  Margie’s Dad
The Reader, The Car Guys Sister – a beader and jewelery maker.

Why don’t we use our real names?
I’m pretty cautious about privacy. Simple as that. So while I have chosen to write about my adventures, I don’t want to invade the private lives of my family! And I don’t want my private life to get mixed up with my blogging life.

95 thoughts on “About

    • Mosquitoes can make our summer kind of miserable, and apparently we also have bedbugs in our part of the world now. But compared to cockroaches and termites and fire ants, I think we are pretty lucky.

    • Hi IMT – Inside my house – more red! The living room, dining room and front entry are all painted in a deep red! And much of the house is in various stages of unfinished renovations.
      You have a point though – I should post some inside the Red House pictures…

    • Hi alienhippy – I’m not an artist like you, so I use my camera to tell stories. I find it much easier to write something once I have a photo or graphic in place!

  1. I like this design a lot. Very clean and simple, and the background is a welcoming color and pattern. I should have told you before, but I appreciate your photography very much. It’s smartly composed, and the colors are rich without over-saturation. I drop by just to look through your “windows”.

    • Thanks Mikey. I’m enjoying the photography aspect of blogging, which is pushing me to figure out how to photograph things so the picture on the screen looks like the one I see with my eyes.

  2. I am not invisible in my photo. I use a tadoodle, which I think represents the best side of me. I am alot like you in THAT age group, too.

    Your discription of yourself is wonderful. The picture you protray of yourself gives you alot of latitude but I think you have great wit and can appreciate your worth as a human, as an “almost mature” (god forbid anyone else calls us that! lol) woman.

    Just popped in to view your photos of Possibility and WOW I found someone who thinks like me! Looking forward to more visits to your site.

    I hope mine can give you a little information about my values and what I call fun.

    TaTa until later, Cathy the bagg lady

  3. I’m glad to have stumbled on to your blog…very interesting! I love Canada and it’s people (family and friends). I also love your family names, much more creative than the ones I chose my grandchildren. I’ll be back.

  4. Margie, I love your About section. At least we are not older than dirt! And I am beyond the age if “invisible,” so I’m entitled to make up strange short names for the rest of my family and friends. I somehow know I will be following all of your posts and watch out for comments! Dor

  5. Margie, I apologize for taking so long thanking you for the advise about links. Thank you so very much it has been really helpful.

    Again thank you,
    Ta Ta for now, Cathy th eBagg Lady.

  6. Hi Margie,

    I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger award because I enjoy and admire your blog. There are some rules that go with it. I broke one of them, but I don’t think anyone will notice. If you have done this before or it’s not something you really want to do, file it away. I understand.

    Here are the rules:

    1. Thank the award-giver and link back to them in your post.
    2. 
Share 7 things about yourself.

    3. Pass this award along to 15 recently discovered blogs you enjoy reading.

    4. Contact your chosen bloggers to let them know about the award.

    Thank you for all your great posts.

    • Hi yearstricken – Thanks for the Versatile Blogger Award! Since I have received it a number of times, I’ll acknowledge you on my Awards Page, but delay forwarding the award until a later date. I’ve pretty much nominated most of the bloggers I follow already!

  7. Your SIL’s probably have a name for you! I about spit my coffee out. I wonder if mine does too….hmmmmmm. Glad I found your blog. I love your comments above – the invisible age and that you use your childhood name. Mine was Barbie Jo. I specifically remember telling my grandpa one day when he was driving me to my 4th grade classroom – not to call me Barbie anymore. I regret that now. I wanted to seem grown up – now I just want to have fun.

    • Yes Pensioner, though I knew about this award when I visited Jakes blog a while back. While I appreciate awards, and understand the role they play in networking, I am not very prompt in responding to the criteria that comes with them!

  8. Margie, I nominated you for The Versatile Blogger Award – I am a great admirer of your blog. The info is on my latest post; please feel free to do as you wish with the nomination. Have a happy new year!

    • I appreciate your nomination, Composer. I will add a link to your blog on my Awards Page, and pass the award along at a later date. Happy New Year to you and your blog!

  9. Our home here in Bermuda is a brick red too. You can see part of it on the header on my blog. That view is of the kitchen upstairs and masterbedroom windows.

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  11. In the “better late than never” category, please accept my congratulations on your remarkable entry in Dark Globe’s photo contest. Judging was a very difficult job and I’m just happy your work was enjoyed by many, many people.

    Hugs,
    Lorna

    • Hi Jennifer – Thanks so much for caring enough about my blog to tag me. While your questions are very interesting, I just don’t have time to do them justice! I’ll take a pass, thanks.

  12. I am so old my age is no longer “awkward”! A nice place to be, I assure you — and promise you .

    Thanks so much for stopping by to visit my animal tea cozies today on A View from the Woods.
    I like your blog a lot, and the About page especially. I think you’ll enjoy one of my very first posts on my other blog, Touch2Touch, about how white hair changed my life:
    http://touch2touch.wordpress.com/2010/08/29/it’s-the-white-hair-that-does-it/

    Cheers!

  13. As one of my first graders says, Likey Likey :-) I too fit the bill – exactly in the middle, between 55 and 65. I colored my hair when someone referred to my husband as my son! Ok. My insecurity is showing. Shame on me. Be seeing you…

  14. Hello Margie. Taking some time to investigate blogrolls, found you from prairiewisdom. Yup, I too am invisible. I can tell because people look right through me. And, my husband doesn’t bother to respond to me anymore. Seems I’ll be finding some solace here on your blog. Relief.

  15. Read your never never post and as a fellow Canadian can understand the lure to never never land. Although I live in southern Ontario and have had only 2 days of snow this winter. Also read your comments about letting your hair go natural – which I did to the initial horror of friends and family. But contrary to my gravatar picture, I now have white hair like you and love it. You also have quite a talent for photography. Excellent blog all around.

    • Yes, I’m sure you understand the desire to escape winter now and then. I expect the Snowbirds in your area head for Florida, while ours head for Arizona.

      It is nice to hear from a person who has dared to defy the industry that is enslaving much of the female population. (I’m rather vocal about my dislike for the way the beauty industry makes women feel inadequate about the way they look.)

  16. Hi Margie,
    thanks for stopping by my blog and following. (actually, I thought you already were.) Anyway, I look forward to seeing your comments.

    BTW, you look great with your gray hair. I’m not ready to go there yet – I think I’ll wait until I’m completely gray, or at least retired. But my husband looks great with his gray hair.
    Huffygirl

  17. HI Margie, great blog!
    I’d liek to ask you are using Forever theme? but how come your font is not the same as the forever theme font? did u upgrade ? thanks! i’d like to use the forever theme but i find the font toooooo small hehe. so i hope you’ll answer my questions! thanks!

    • Yes, I am using the Forever Theme right now (though that could change if a better one comes along!) I’ve paid for the CSS upgrade, and it gives me the ability to use different fonts.

  18. Hi!
    Great blog and beautiful theme! I have been walking here with you for a while… now I suddenly see that the following star is shining. Thank you!

    I have never heard of the “Invisible Age”…but two days ago I must have entered it then…Maybe that´s why I´m a teacher? My students never get the chance of not seeing – or hearing – me!

  19. Nice to meet you, Margie. When I was 40 I stopped coloring my hair (I had been for 15 years at that time). 5 years later I needed a job outside the home and discovered the dreaded AGE DISCRIMINATION! So Miss Clairol and I reestablished our relationship. Now I’m not sure I want to go back … although it’s a real pain in the ass every 6 weeks. BTW, I’m 49 now and considering ‘letting the hair go’ when I turn 50. As a special 1/2 century Birthday present to myself. But I’m scared my husband will finally give up and leave me – he didn’t want me to cut my hair short again 6 months ago either. Talk about superficial! ;)

    I’m kidding about my husband. He can’t leave me. I’ve been following him around for 26 years – literally. We have moved 25 times. He’s going to have to kill me … as I daily remind him.

    Looking forward to reading more. Take care!

    • Welcome to my place – on the internet. We moved around a lot too, but not quite that many times!
      It is unfortunate that women have to resort to colouring their hair in order to achieve certain things. Of course, if we all just ignored the beauty industry completely, this just wouldn’t be an issue!

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