My problems might seem really obvious to someone else, but I don’t necessarily want to be told how to fix them. I might just want someone to listen to me – show me that they care about me. If I want advice, I’ll ask for it.
Now, I just need to follow my own advice.
Posted by Margie on June 17, 2013
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2013/06/17/just-listen-to-me/
At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.
- Ann Landers (1918-2002) -
Why do you think women worry about how they look?
An example of an Air Brushed and Photo Shopped Model:
Here are some other websites that discuss Distorted Perceptions of Beauty:
Real or Retouched? Distorted Perceptions of Beauty - An excellent example of very bizarre photo retouching.
Chasing Beauty: An Addict’s Memoir by Lisa Hickey- “I want beauty not to matter.”
How much time do you spend trying to make yourself look better?
Do men worry about how they look? If so, why?
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For more Women and the Beauty Industry rants from your un-retouched, un-makeupped, wrinkled, grey haired author, go to my Category called Women’s Stories.
Posted by Margie on November 15, 2012
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2012/11/15/evolution-distorted-perceptions-of-beauty/
I Believe Women will achieve the Equality they deserve when they can defy all the industries that make them feel unworthy.
I Believe Women will achieve the Happiness they deserve when they quit worrying about their age, and how they look.
I Believe the Media does a better job at Instilling Fear in people than it does in empowering them.
Many women, I’ve discovered, don’t share my beliefs. They are willing to support the industries that tell them they are not good enough – not pretty enough, not thin enough, not sexy enough.
Fortunately, there are women who do share a few of my beliefs and one of these is the writer of the blog Hippie Cahier. She recently wrote an ‘eggcellent post’ “I don’t wanna be a stupid girl”. Also, be very sure to watch the video by P!nk called Stupid Girls.
Another blogger who writes about women, both historically and in the present, is Barb at Before Morning Breaks. In this post she tells of a new fashion hell: Before Morning Breaks Considers Changing Buttletts.
Please use the comment form below to link to any of your posts, or any posts you have read elsewhere, that encourage women to ‘Not be Stupid Girls’!
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Some of my other Rants about why I wish Women would ignore the industries and the media that they are slaves to:
A 3 Dressed Up As a 9 - Sondra the Snow Goddess before and after she is photoshopped so she looks thinner.
A Skinny-Obsessed World – “Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons. Let them never be Stupid Girls.” J.K. Rowling
The Beauty Hype – I’m against women being told they must color their hair or hide their wrinkles or paint their faces or wear certain clothes or lose weight – in order to be beautiful.
Mother Nature Defies the Beauty Industry! Can you imagine what the world would look like if Mother Nature listened to the human Beauty Industry?
How to Run in Stilettos – “Courage is no match for an unfriendly shoe“. Roger Moore, as James Bond
What Dressing Like a Slut Says – So ladies, wear revealing clothing if you want to. But don’t ever think it is safe to wear anything you want where ever you want. Life isn’t about Why you shouldn’t be a victim, it is about how NOT to be a victim.
The Glass Ceiling is Made of Cloth – But really ladies, if you can’t peacefully co-exist with your own body (just as it is when you hop out of the shower) why do you think you are playing on the same field as the men you are competing with?
The Many Faces of Women’s Equality – I’m all for women’s liberation and gender equality. I just don’t want to see the children get trampled in the morning rush to the office.
The Power of Grey Hair – Mia Gallagher believes our fear of mortality is behind the fear of ageing and treating ageing as a disease that can be cured with potions. “If aging is a disease then life is a disease.”
Women, Liberation, Freedom, Beauty – As Naomi Wolf explained in The Beauty Myth: “An ideology that makes women feel “worth less” was urgently needed to counteract the way feminism had begun to make us feel worth more.”
Posted by Margie on October 10, 2012
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2012/10/10/simply-eggcellent-dont-be-a-stupid-girl/
‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ - I wish I had thought of that title for my blog. Can you imagine how many visitors I’d get every day? Disappointed visitors, of course, when they discovered that fifty shades of grey described my hair colour and not my review of a hugely successful erotic novel – which I haven’t read.
No, to me fifty shades of grey describes the colour of the headstones in an old cemetery. (This one is in Rodemack, France.)
Headstone inscriptions don’t usually refer to the deceased person’s steamy sex life, but this one in Moultrie, Georgia did (assuming it is true):
Here lies the father of 29.
He would have had more
But he didn’t have time.
Fifty shades of grey also describes the rocks and sand on a beach. (This one is at Deception Pass in Washington.)
Beaches are thought to be very romantic places, though spring break in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida isn’t so much about romance as ‘Sex on the Beach’.
An early morning fog at Lake Conroe, Texas. A comfy Tete`-a-tete´ chair waits for the couple to sit and enjoy their morning coffee. The air is warm, the fog creates an intimate envelope of fifty shades of grey.
I have many more photos that are fifty shades of grey and I suppose human intimacy could have taken place at one time or another in many of them. But I really don’t want to know about it, any more than I want to read erotic mommy porn. So, look somewhere else for a review of “Fifty Shades of Grey!”
Gray hairs seem to my fancy like the soft light of the moon, silvering over the evening of life.
- Jean Paul Richter
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Scott Feschuk, a sometimes very funny writer for Canada’s MACLEAN’S magazine, wrote a single chapter of a book he called Fifty Shades of Eh. Here is an excerpt:
I gaze upon him with my intrepid eyes. My mouth, which is also intrepid, curls into a sly smile. “
Did you remember the clamps?” I ask.“Canadian Tire was closed. But I found a bunch of clothespins in the garage.”
I swoon. My breathing quickens. My heart beats a frantic tattoo as I surrender myself to the anticipation of languid erotic pleasures and several hours of splinter removal.
Posted by Margie on August 30, 2012
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2012/08/30/fifty-shades-of-grey/
You looked a whole lot better to me
From twenty feet away
You’re just a 3 dressed up as a 9 ….
Trooper
Catchy song – although I don’t think people should be judged by their looks, do you? The song confirms the stereotype that men are only interested in women’s looks, and that women will do what it takes to meet a man’s expectations.
The Fashion and Beauty Industry have certainly capitalized on the desire of women to be younger, thinner, firmer, smoother…. and if the product can’t actually do what it claims, then the Advertising Industry will find a graphic artist who will make sure that expectations and reality appear to be one and the same. (If you Google ‘Airbrushing Celebrity Before and After’ you’ll see some excellent examples.)
Let me demonstrate how simple it is to alter a photo to make a model ‘more beautiful’. In the photo above, Sondra the Snow Goddess is modelling the latest in scarf wear.
Here is Sondra after a session in Photoshop. Her eyes are more symmetrical, her lips have been plumped up, and her whole body has been elongated. Do you think she looks more ‘beautiful’? The right answer is “No, of course not!” Any other answer is dead wrong.
Perhaps the simplest way to make Sondra’s photo more dramatic, without altering her body, is to add a frame to her photo. If your Blog theme doesn’t add a frame, you can do it yourself before you upload. I like to add a simple black and white border around the outside with a program called FastStone Image Viewer.
Would you like to make your own Sondra the Snow Goddess? The directions for these Mini Crochet Snowmen are at Cut Out and Keep. I used Crochet Cotton, and though this made a very cute snowman that was only 1.75 inches tall, next time I would use a heavier wool and bigger crochet hook.
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My Similar Beauty Industry Rants: A Skinny Obsessed World
The Beauty Hype
Mother Nature Defies the Beauty Industry
How to Run in Stilettos
Women, Liberation, Freedom, Beauty
Posted by Margie on March 9, 2012
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2012/03/09/a-3-dressed-up-as-a-9/
Paige, at ‘Mastering the Art of Life’ recently wrote a post called My Life as a Number. She talks frankly about women’s obsession with their weight and dress size, and how those two numbers, if they don’t fall within the criteria dictated by society, can overshadow all the other characteristics that truly describe a person. Paige ends her piece with a quote by J.K. Rowling from the J.K. Rowling Official Site.
In a post called ‘For Girls Only, Probably” J.K. says in part:
“Is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me.”
“I’ve got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don’t want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons. Let them never be Stupid Girls.”
The Media Awareness Network describes what is at stake for women in a post called Beauty and Body Image in the Media. The quest for an image that is unattainable for all but a few can have devastating effects. This post ends by saying:
Women learn to compare themselves to other women, and to compete with them for male attention. This focus on beauty and desirability “effectively destroys any awareness and action that might help to change that climate.”
On a recent vacation, I watched as a skinny 8 year old girl in a bikini bathing suit interacted with a group of pre-teen little boys by saying to them, “How do you like my new bathing suit?”. She proceeded to model it, but she was quickly abandoned by the boys who had no interest in her bathing suit, or her, apparently.
In reality, she just wanted to join in the game they were playing, and once she resumed normal child broadcasting, she was welcomed into the fray. But somehow, somewhere, she has already started to be programmed by the Beauty Industry, and I find that very unfortunate.
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My Similar Rants about the Beauty Industry:
- Women, Liberation, Freedom, Beauty
- Fat Facts
- The Glass Ceiling is Made of Cloth
- How to Run in Stilettos
- Mother Nature Defies the Beauty Industry
- The Beauty Hype
Posted by Margie on July 29, 2011
http://gogreygirl.wordpress.com/2011/07/29/a-skinny-obsessed-world/
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