On Being Invisible

I change my blog name every few years to reflect my blogging interests!

November 2009: On Being Invisible and Red House Diaries
This blog started in a country called Canada. I was investigating the Island of Invisible Women. I had discovered I was one of the occupants. I was at that awkward age – that one between 55 and 65.  It is when a woman is older than all of her kitchen appliances, older than the house she lives in, but not as old as the dirt in the yard. It is an age when women are deemed to be too old to be beautiful and energetic, and too young to be wise and full of character. It is called the “Invisible Age.”

March 2011: A Lighter Shade of Grey
While crusading in my Coat of Invisibility, I discovered a powerful band of thieves were at work in the Wasteland of Superficiality. They had created an empire whose sole source of income depended on making women think they are not beautiful. Older women were offered dangerous potions to banish grey hair and wrinkles. Younger women  were enticed into halls of cosmetics and lairs of surgeons who promised to make all their dreams come true – for a price. Even young girls were made to believe they were not pretty enough or thin enough.

June 2012: As I Age
I was contently following my cosmetic-less Map of my Aging, when suddenly I stumbled into the Swamp of Shattered Dreams. My husband was in a motorcycle accident, several family members became ill, and my beloved Happy Place – the cabin – was destroyed in the ‘One in a Thousand Year Flood’. Stuck in the Mud Flats of Disillusionment, I shut the blog down for 4 months.

March 2014: Serendipitous and Curating Serendipity
For several years my tagline was “What I see when I’m looking for something else”. That suggested blog names like Serendipitous, then Curating Serendipity.

October 2015: Fueled by Chocolate
Dark Chocolate is my ‘go to’ treat. When I’m on my deathbed, I will eat nothing but chocolate.  I renamed my blog  Fueled by Chocolate

fueledbychocolateDecember 2016:
I split my blog up. I sent bugs and birds to a blog I call Chirps and Buzzes. I sent quotes and quips to a blog I call The Quippery.

MargieSo, Who Am I?
I am a Canadian blogger who has chosen to write under a variation of my childhood name – Margy.  I have many other names – dearest, mother, grandma, aunt and probably the name my son-in-laws call me when I am out of hearing range…

The Red House – we share the land with white tail deer, coyotes, skunks, weasels, owls, hawks… and mosquitoes.

About Home
I have moved from house to house and country to country, but now I am home again. Home is a Red painted House in Canada. I am “Grandma in the Red House”, which makes it very difficult to contemplate painting it some other colour. I am also a Canadian Snowbird – my winter home is a ‘Bland Beige’ bungalow in Arizona.

My Family

The Car Guy, the Spousal Unit – keeper of the fleet; retired; a motorcycle accident left him with a brain injury. He and I are learning much about brain plasticity.
The CookerChristine, eldest daughter – excellent cook; mother to Lego Kid and Wild Child. Husband is The Fisherman.
The Baker, middle daughter – go-to girl for desserts at all functions, photographer, bookkeeper, mother of Sting and Curious George. Husband is Mr. RV.
The Beader, youngest daughter – a nurse, a cat lover, and a bead maker. Husband is Beast.


  1. chiefmadapple says

    This is such an awesome “about” page. So glad you chose not to be invisible in the digital realm.


    • I’m glad I’m here too, especially since it gives me a chance to meet interesting visitors like you!


  2. Gosh, you’ve already done it all. And I love all the bits and all the you’s and all the titles. And you’re Canadian. Some of my favourite people are Canadian.
    But then I got to the end and your blogging accomplishments and realised, gosh, you’re that Margie. I only lasted two months in the NBFP Club but they were some of the happiest days of my life. I still miss it. Well, maybe not the coffee…..


    • I see you joined NBFP after I had passed my Presidency on to Al. He never has given me my share of the ‘Chocolate Dues’ to honour the fact that I founded the Club…
      Sorry I missed your ‘Freshly Pressed’ event. To be honest, I don’t follow the FP listings. My FP event was poorly attended, and if I had been consulted in advance, I would have declined. It was in the middle of dealing with the flood that wiped out our summer community. I had just lost an important part of my life – I didn’t ask for, or want, to lose my NBFP community too!
      But that’s water under the bridge, as they say…

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      • Oh. I think we ate it all at my farewell. I found it in a cupboard in the kitchen.

        Don’t feel sorry. I spent a lot of the party hiding in the bathroom. Too many strange people. I don’t think the whole FP thing is all it’s cracked up to be anyway.


    • I’m looking forward to browsing your blog!
      Yes, my blog has changed a lot over the years. If I had known then, what I know now!

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    • Thanks for visiting. I’m using Apostrophe 2, which is the updated version of the theme. (I have modified the CSS a bit.)
      If you decide to try it, be sure to go to your Dashboard and enable the mobile aspect of the theme. Apparently an increasing number of people read stuff on their phones.


      • Margy…thanks. I recently noticed they had a second version (I’m using the first). Yours looked similar, only it had some nice separations, which I like. Do you know how to make one photo larger than the other, and take up the space of two like in the sample WP shows? I wonder if I have to turn on the mobile aspect for my version? I thought it just automatically worked on all devices??


        • Apostrophe2 apparently has more features and added flexibility, so I chose this ‘upgraded’ version…
          – The two different sized photos in the sample appear when you choose ‘WP Admin – Appearance – Customize – Featured Content’ and then add a tag name. Then up to 6 posts will appear in the top section above the rest of your posts.
          – The mobile version has to be turned on. Go to ‘WP Admin – Appearance – Mobile’ to turn it on.
          – Choose ‘WP Admin – Appearance – Customize – Content Options – Post Details – Display Date’. Uncheck ‘display date’ if you don’t want to see the date on top of your photos on your home page.
          – In ‘Content Options – Featured Images’, there are 4 options for how and where featured images are displayed.
          – In ‘Appearance – Widgets’ there are 4 options of where to put the widgets. Each option displays a bit differently.
          – In ‘Customize – Menus – Menu Locations’ – make sure the Header Menu option is pointing towards the Menu you want to use.

          I wanted to be able to fiddle with the look by programming in CSS, so upgraded to the Premium Plan ($11C a month) to try that out for a year.


          • Margy…thanks sooo much for this. I’m so tied up right now, I don’t have time to fiddle with things. But I did like your site, so will check it out later. I’m on a “premium” plan, but I paid once for the year. Is there a new system, or a new kind of premium, or just a new payment plan? And how did you learn how to do all this stuff?


            • Premium is the middle of the 3 plans. If you don’t want to customize with CSS, then you could probably drop back to the Personal Plan at the end of your year for half the price – unless you need the storage space for your photos. (I resize my photos so they load fast, so storage space isn’t an issue.)
              How did I learn this? I’m the ‘Master of Drop-down Menus’.

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    • It may seem odd to you, but some days I would rather be living in the USA. Our Government keeps piling up more debt and piling on more taxes!


  3. I stumbled on your blog because I was looking for something that mentioned last year’s Canada turning 150, like my little town is this year…just to get a feel for the difference in celebrations, but honestly, I can’t wait to get back to your blog later and explore it more deeply. You have a great one!


    • Congratulations to your little town – 150 is a wonderful milestone!
      It is always a surprise to me how a search engine finally connects someone to one of my posts!


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